In most of my conversations with advisors, there’s a point when they freely admit that what’s holding them back is…them. This is always true. All success comes from the inside.
Most of the time, they believe that challenges like procrastination, perfectionism and endless distractions are the culprits. But these are symptoms of the real challenge, not their actual roadblocks. The real challenges generally fall into three categories:
(i) Fear of what people will think or say. What if you fail? What if you become too visible and too controversial? How will you be able to face people? And, on the other side, what if you become too successful and friends and family start to treat you differently?
(ii) Fear about wasting time or energy. You’re afraid you’ll put a lot of time in and that it will end up not working. You’re afraid that you’ll be working impossibly long hours or that you’ll be overwhelmed or exhausted or you won’t be able to follow through.
(iii) Money fear. You’re afraid to invest in the help you need—an assistant, a coach, technology. You’re afraid you’ll waste or lose your money and that you will end up earning less. You’re afraid you won’t be able to keep up the momentum and you’ll have a lot more to lose. And, on the flip side, you’re afraid of the changes more money will bring to your life.
2. Not knowing what to do
3. Believing that you’re “not enough”
Fear is a mask for desire
My colleague, Rich Litvin, who inspired this article, tells us:
“Fear is a mask for desire. Not knowing what to do is a clever cover for fear. Not feeling ‘enough’ is your unconscious keeping you safe.”
While there are a lot of ways to address the 3 big roadblocks, there’s actually one single solution that often helps you overcome all of them:
Be on a mission. Find something so important for you to accomplish that nothing will stop you—not fear, not lack of knowledge–nothing. Being on a mission to which you’re 100% committed can make challenges like procrastination, perfectionism, distraction and time management issues simply disappear.
What’s your mission? Reach out and let me help you find and refine it and make your roadblocks disappear.
In the meantime, KEEP REACHING…